How to break the ice

You go to bed at night and can hardly fall asleep because you can’t stop thinking about THAT one person? And in the morning, the first thing you do is look at your phone to see if there’s a new message from them? And when it is there, your heart almost jumps out of your chest? Yes, having a small (or big) crush on someone is great – but also just as nerve-wracking. Because of course you’ll seem cool and interesting and hope that the conversations just flow. And to make that happen, we’ve put together 36 questions for your crush that are guaranteed to score points.

No matter whether you’re just starting to write to your crush or you’ve already arranged a first date – especially at the beginning of the getting-to-know-you phase, it’s easy to get worked up. What kind of questions should you ask? And how do you ensure interesting conversations that hopefully don’t end in awkward “nobody knows what to say” pauses? If you’re wondering the same thing, this article might be able to help. We’ve put together a small list of clever questions to ask your crush that will not only break the ice, but will also quickly build a deep connection.

36 Questions to Ask Your Crush

Icebreaker questions

Especially if you are just getting to know your crush and you are perhaps just starting to text, these casual questions are perfect for breaking the ice a little and arousing interest – and perhaps making it to the first date. 😉 But even if the first meeting is already coming up, many of these questions are of course perfect.

1. How was your weekend?
2. What do you think of the new café in the city center? Have you tried it yet?
3. Do you already have plans for the weekend?
4. I saw you like [Band/Film/Buch]. What is your favorite song?
5. The weather isn’t that great. What do you like to do on a rainy Sunday?
6. Have you heard about the new Netflix series?
7. What was the last thing you binge-watched?
8. Do you have pets? If so, tell me all about them!
9. Do you have a morning routine or do you start each day differently?
10. Where do you really want to fly to again? Have you already planned your vacation?
11. What is your go-to snack when you get hungry late at night?
12. Do you have a favorite season? Why this one?
13. Do you have a favorite place in your city that you could recommend to me?
14. What food could you eat every day?

By the way, if you notice some of these things about your crush, you should get away from him as quickly as possible:

Deeper questions

If you notice that you are slowly building a connection, the conversation can of course become a little more personal with these questions:

1. Is there a dream or goal that you really want to achieve?
2. What is at the top of your bucket list?
3. What makes you laugh, even on a bad day?
4. What was the best decision you ever made?
5. What are you most grateful for in your life?
6. What is your best childhood memory?
7. Which book changed your view of the world?
8. What does happiness mean to you?
9. What qualities do you value most in other people?
10. Have you ever made a decision? If so, what was it?
11. Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?
12. What influence does your family have on your life and your decisions?
13. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
14. Is there a moment in your life that you would like to experience again?

Questions for a careful approach to relationship issues

Things are going really well and you’ve perhaps even met once or twice? Then you can of course carefully direct the questions towards the future. After all, you want to know whether your ideas fit together…

1. What is your love language?
2. What do you think is the key to a good relationship?
3. What is the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?
4. What is your idea of ​​romance?
5. What was your first thought when we first met?
6. What do you think is the foundation of a strong relationship?
7. How important is time together versus time for yourself in a relationship?
8. What is the best idea you have of a future together?

With these 36 questions to ask your crush, you’ll definitely be well prepared for the getting-to-know-you phase. But of course, none of this is set in stone. Just take a look at how things are going between you and your crush and whether the questions are appropriate in one place or another. Maybe you didn’t even have time to think about it because the conversations just flow SO well and you can just go with the flow. And if not, these questions will definitely give you a good foundation.

And psssst: You can also tell whether your date is a great match by these sentences:

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